After driving around a bit with the latest setup, there are other issues now, a lot of the stage to me sounds as though it is much louder on the right, vocals don't seem to stay in one spot but drift left depending on the frequency. I matched left/right levels using my phone and the Dayton iMM-6 microphone playing pink noise. I flipped the phase on my midbass at the amp (versus just in the DSP) and it made no difference. I did discover that the left midbass is quiet in the drivers seat, the right quiet in the passengers seat. So, I think they are both playing fine just some kind of cancellation happening on the seat I am sitting in.
Not entirely sure what direction to go in now, I think I am going to try to find someone reasonably local who is more experienced at tuning than I am, along with seeing if I can borrow a USB microphone from someone to try using REW. Might also go ahead and reset all the settings on the DSP and start fresh.